I don't know about Tim, or anyone else for that matter, but here is what I do.

I start by carfully stripping the EL wire core and seperating out the two strand wires. I then sodder a tiny piece of speaker wire to the 2 EL strands, and then heat shrink that. That gives me a more stable 'platform' for soddering to the mono plug.

Make sense?

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